P.A woman promotes path to healthy relationships

Rodgers said after her divorce four years ago, she was left with feelings of loneliness and depression, and as a result made many poor choices.

“You know I had two kids and I never felt sexy, I didn’t feel sexual in my marriage and then I left and I lost a bunch of weight, and I started getting a lot of attention from men which I really liked,” she said.

Rodgers said she quickly discovered the short periods of pleasure would lead to feelings of rejection, and the loneliness would soon return as well. One of the main messages Rodgers talks about in her presentation is the importance of not settling, and finding someone who has the qualities you want.

“There’s a lot of good men out there but a good man is not necessarily the right one to date either because he doesn’t have the passion you want or he doesn’t have the kind of laugh like you want,” she said.

Rodgers added in an age of dating apps, it’s become much easier for people to find someone to have sex with, but she adds those are the sorts of releases that can be very damaging to one’s personal feelings of self-worth.

Rodgers has created a special Facebook group for people who need help with their own relationships. (Facebook/ Chantelle Rodgers)

Last summer Rodgers was informed by her doctor that a lump under her arm, was cancerous. She said it was the hardest news she ever received and at first she did not know how to respond.

“I just remember sitting there and thinking I hadn’t even had time to enjoy my summer yet, I haven’t actually lived my life yet and now you are telling me I have cancer,” she said.

Rodgers now credits cancer for saving her life, explaining it showed her how to appreciate life and what was most important. One of the exercises Rodgers used to find joy, was starting a journal and everyday writing down something in her life, cancer had made her grateful for.

“It took the anger from it, it took the fear away from it, and so you know I would just look forward to playing with my kids, talking to a friend on the phone or watching a funny movie,” she said.

Thankfully the chemotherapy treatments Rodgers received were successful and she is now cancer free. But she now wants to turn that tough period in her life into a tool to help other men and women find their own paths to happiness.

Rodgers has been scheduled to speak at the E.A. Rawlinson Centre March 24 at 3 p.m. Tickets are also available through her website.

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Nigel.maxwell@jpbg.ca

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by Nigel Maxwell

P.A woman promotes path to healthy relationships

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